Question by overtherainbow: how do i deal with my husbands withdrawal symptoms from cannabis?
my husband, i met over 7 years ago, has recently given up cannabis, i have never known him without cannabis. i met him smoking it. Although i dont smoke myself, i was ok that he did. but lately, husband has decided to stop smoking and is driving me nuts! hes on my case about everything, and i feel as though hes stampeding over my feelings and life, since hes discovered that life off the weed is so much better. but now im starting to feel hurt by his new found brain. anyone?
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Answer by deedee
Deal with it!!!!
Its better than him being doped up all the time.
My husband gave up drinking and no it was not fun, but now its been over a year and we have no problems!!!
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I did the same. I don’t know if you are in the US where they smoke weed straight, but if you are in the UK it could be associated with the tobacco they mix with the weed to ‘pad it out’.
When I gave up my beer consumption went through the roof, as did the cleanliness of the house. I filled my time doing anything at all. Everything in the house became sterile overnight as I frantically ‘did stuff’. I used to smoke about 20-30 joints a day on average, although a lot more at the weekend when I’d quite happily work my way through a half ounce on my own. You have to find out what his interests are and become more involved in them. One of the reasons I gave up was health. It may be the same for him. Suggest going to the gym together or get him a bike.
Basically you have to treat him as a very bored person and think of things to do. That’s what the gap of not smoking leaves.
I wouldn’t listen to the crazies here who say he needs counselling. If he’s anything like me (and most weed smokers are usually pretty similar) that’s just freak him out. Weed isn’t physically addictive although it is mentally addictive. Hence he needs something to do. Congratulations on being chilled enough to let him be his own man when he wanted to smoke and supportive enough when he made the decision to quit. My girlfriend did the same for me and I’ll never get over how much I feel I owe her.
Ps. the THC will clear out in 12 – 24 hours. IT’s NOT physically addictive. Only someones who’s never smoked would say that.
It would be important to point out that you’ve been doing a good job of it all for the last 7 years and since the only thing that has changed recently is him then maybe he needs to stop this stampeding and let everyone get on with it.
New boundaries may need to be made. Keep on with the communication. Counseling can be beneficial.
Until his system is clean you’ll have to just deal with it! You should talk to him deffantly though and let him know what he is doing to you.
Hes psychologically addicted to pot. He needs to attend a 12 step meeting to learn how to be sober and confront his feelings instead of constantly confronting YOU.
You are in for a long haul dear. It takes a long while for the system to clear all the THC it’s built up over the years.
For YOURSELF, go to an Al-Anon 12step group.
there is no such thing as cannabis withdrawl, physically you can not be addicted to it but mentally he thinks he’s withdrawing from it. he probably doesnt know what to do with is time, tell him to find something else to occupy his mind to keep him from thinkng about smoking. it will take some time but eventually he wont even think about it anymore,.but his behavior definatly is not due 2 withdrawl you cant physically go through withdrawl from cannibus, maybe he’s having a revolution, a new outlook on life, but let him know that he’s hurting your feelings
Don’t mind what the “Psychology Major” had to say he was addicted to it he is going through withdraws just as any other person who stops smoking ciggeratts, or taking in caffeine or any other drug. You are just going to have to deal with it and find a form of support for yourself for now. Speak with him let him know you support him but he is hurting you too.
I indulge from time to time, after going from a ounce a month.
Is the first few days drying out that s the worse, then you find you have no patience and tolerence, You are not softened up anymore, which means your emotions are real and as they’ve not been used much (stoned over) they tend to be raw.
Boredom is one of the the things that get to you.
But this is’nt about Him, its about you. Mediate or get physically active, perhaps you could join a “my partners coming down” sopport group or even al – anon have a group for partners of substance abuse. – It may not be an addictive substance, but its still using a substance for escape/pain relief ect. Its the state of mind that needs the healing, especially you.
I wish you well, and congratulate you for your understanding and support of your partners choice.
There is no such thing as physical withdrawal from cannabis. Having given up smoking, drinking, sugar and weed, i can state that for a fact. Oh yes, and millions of doctors agree, weed is not physically addictive. Psychologically, yes.
Congratulations, you are meeting your real husband. He probably smoked weed to stop him being the way he is now. Now that he’s not sedated every day, the real him is coming out. It’s not withdrawal. Does he drink alcohol? Alcohol tends to make people the way that you are describing. If he doesn’t, he could be a bit manic, lots of manic people start smoking weed to stop the symptoms. in which case, he needs to get to a psychiatrist and get on some proper meds.
Anyway, stand up for yourself, tell him to show you some respect, don’t be one of those lame women who puts up with it because he’s making up an excuse and you are playing along and encouraging it. If you are too afraid to bring it up, or know that it will cause too much trouble, well, that’s his game and you are playing right into it. It’s controlling behaviour, controlling behaviour is abuse. Don’t try and justify it with silly excuses. He’s not giving up crack, it’s weed. This is why we need drug education.
I smoked at least 3 grams a day for three years, went up north to work for three months, where there was no weed and there were no physical symptoms. I had more withdrawal “symptoms” from giving up coffee and chocolate bars. Good luck. Congrats on supporting him, but please remember that support doesn’t mean being a victim.
* Technically, weed stays in your system for up to three months. So does meat and chewing gum. Any real symptoms, (which at worst would be a minor headache and some edgyness because he can’t psychologically cope without his crutch) would have gone within 24hours.
First off, don’ let it get to you. I know it’s easier said than done, but his anger/stress will pass with time. It is very hard to come off a drug, no matter what that drug is, cannabis, heroin, ecstacy, even nicotine! But your body is under so much stress because it has pangs and withdrawal.
I am not however, saying he should take it out on you! Have you been doing much to take his mind off it? Like cinema? Meals? Even jsut going for a walk if you don’t have much money. Perhaps he could seek some kind of help also. I know that nobody wants to do that, they see it as a weakness, but teh truth is (and the truth hurts) that rightr now he is weak, because he is mentally and physically trying to cope with dropping an addiction. People always say that weed isn’t addictive, but trust me it is.
It is very hard when you are on the receiving end of someone who is stressed and possibly depressed, but this is where you need to talk to him. He needs to be aware how he is making you feel, and don’t think that this is the end of your relationship. It really isn’t. I think teh best things is as I said, do things to take his mind off it. Romantic things (uif he’s into it) are good because love and teh feeling of being happy in a relationship can really help someone get through.
But do make him realise that there is only so far you can push someone. Even if you have no intention of leaving him it’s important that he knows you won’t allow him to trample you.
I really hope this helps. x
There is something in recovery called a dry drunk. I know that your husband did drink but it really applies to anyone who has an addiction to a substance, stops using the substance but doesn’t work on the problems that originally caused them to abuse the substance they did.
Like an addict without an addiction I guess. But it is important to remember that he has been numbing himself for these past seven years and feeling feelings again can be a scary thing. It sounds like he is directing this anxiety and anger towards you which isn’t right. You should probably suggest that the start a recovery program if he isn’t in one already or possibly some counseling.
http://www.whatwinnersdo.com is my personal addiction recovery site.
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